When you're trying to be friends with your ex girlfriend, you may feel a sense of dread as a birthday or holiday approaches. You know that you need to get her a present, but you don't want to send her the wrong message.

The type of present you give your ex girlfriend is crucial and depends on many factors. Is she in a new relationship? Do you still have feelings for her? Do you want to get back together?

If you want to get back together with your ex, then your present selection is even more important. Follow the advice in these dos and don'ts to get some great ideas.

Do select a gift based on something that she said. Do you remember her saying something that she really likes? Perhaps she once mentioned her favorite childhood book or movie. Maybe she said something that she wanted but would never buy for herself. When you give her this type of present, she will be impressed with your memory and thoughtfulness.

Don't buy her lingerie or other sexy things. These are too suggestive for an ex boyfriend to give and will make her feel uncomfortable.

Do choose something that she likes. When many people give gifts, they often select a present based on their own tastes rather than the recipient's. When you choose something based on her likes, she will realize that you care about her.

Don't send her flowers or give a gift card. In most cases, these gifts are generic. It shows that you didn't think much about what you wanted to get her. It also could signify a last minute gift, which doesn't make her feel special.

Do purchase something that will remind her of something you did as a couple. A CD of a concert you went to with her or a night out at a favorite restaurant are both things that could make her think fondly of you.

Don't get her a gag gift. You may think it's funny, but she probably will not. In fact, she will have a hard time knowing what to think about this kind of gift, which is not really the effect you want to have.

Source by Serina Fea